EXCERPT FROM NO GOODBYES
PART 1 GOING DEEPER
Where to Explore Next
My partner Judy died in 1997 after a brief illness. We had been together four intense and tumultuous years, which were fortunately also full of fun, loving and laughter.
Judy’s sudden passing shattered me for a long time. I had at long last been reunited with my soul mate, only to lose her again so quickly. But a few months later we re-connected as her spirit reassuringly spoke to me across the divide from the afterlife, via the medium Ruth Phillips. This connection with Judy was the beginning of a whole new life for both of us. As with most deaths there is a hidden gift as well as the grief we experience when our loved one departs. When we are emotionally ready we just have to look for this gift, which is not always an easy task as it may not be obvious. My gift from Judy was the realisation of my abilities as a medium, a process that has unfolded over the intervening years and continues to this day.
We have stayed in touch ever since. In a way Judy has become my spiritual muse. At first she was what I termed my ‘spirit wrangler’ as she gathered together other spirits in the afterlife for one-on-one readings and for the group development work that I was conducting.
An amazing series of events then unfolded. As the new millennium opened I had ‘graduated’ from working solely in mainstream broadcasting and journalism to produce and host an internet radio show, RadioOutThere.com, which covers all aspects of mind, body and spirit themes. In many ways this proved to be the backbone for ‘Afterlife’ as I have been fortunate enough to interview hundreds of people from all over the world, many of whom specialise in life after death.
There is really no such thing as death. We are all eternal spiritual energies attaching ourselves to a physical body in order to have a human experience. We enjoy many lives and our basic purpose is to have a full range of experiences so that we can grow and develop. We all return to the same place, a vast world which is often referred to as the afterlife, comprising many levels and planes of existence, which surrounds our earthly world.
The afterlife, or as Judy appealingly referred to it when she spoke to me through a medium as, ‘The Heaven World’ vibrates at a much faster rate than the dense energy of the earth. This world is invisible to us on earth, existing in what is essentially another dimension, and is our real home. We only leave it to reincarnate and have a multitude of experiences by attaching our spirit to a physical body on earth, and also on other worlds.
Every contact I have had with spirits in the afterlife reinforces the fact that there is no such place as hell. However, adhering to the principle of ‘as above, so below, there are lower levels where certain dark spirits find themselves after leading violent, toxic or degenerate lives. Here they are helped in a loving way by advanced spirits, and certainly not punished. Forget any images of demons in a fiery pit armed with nasty pitchforks and evil grins. Any punishment suffered here is self-inflicted once a spirit looks back in a life review on their previous activities. No matter what they have done these dark spirits are given loving assistance to grow and develop before returning for another life.
When we return to the afterlife after each incarnation we automatically find ourselves at the appropriate level of our soul development. We are only able to communicate here with the power of thought, as of course not having a body means, no vocal chords. We communicate and create the environment in which we live through our thoughts.
The Heaven World is a place of love, peace and spiritual support helping us understand and embrace our full power as individual souls. The way we live our lives on earth directly affects our life and position in the world of spirit when we return after each sojourn. There is an old saying that ‘you can’t take it with you when you go’ but I beg to differ. Yes, we do leave our material things behind when we transition to the afterlife, they are of no use there, but what we do take with us is the spiritual legacy of the life we have just lived.
As an astrologer, psychic and ‘Johnny Come Lately’ medium, I was able to delve deeply into this fascinating world. Fuelled by a curiosity to know as much as I could about life after death I underwent some intense past life regression. One notable exploration took me back to my last incarnation as Brian, a young British soldier who died in the bloody Battle of the Somme in July 1916. Remarkably Brian took me on a huge voyage of re-discovery as I experienced his return to the world of spirit after his painful death in The Great War.
Looking on from the sidelines I followed Brian as he went into the healing centre to cleanse his spirit after his gruelling wartime experiences, afterwards meeting the Council of Elders for his life review. Finally he re-connected with his soul family in the afterlife to begin a period of rest, revision and eventual preparation for his next life. Along the way Brian revealed how people live in the afterlife, their work, the interactions with their guides and other spirits and also how they relax and enjoy their spiritual respite.
The wonderful thing about connecting with those who have passed over into the afterlife is that you can take nothing for granted. Just when I thought I had all the answers I needed about the world of spirit, the powers that be decided to bring me back to earth with a thud.
When “Afterlife” was published my natural thought process was to wonder…what next? Despite the fact that nothing immediately leaped into my mind as I cogitated and put out for guidance, Spirit obviously had it all mapped out.
I was still communicating with the spirit of former screenwriter and film producer John Dingwall via the trance mediumship of his son Kelly Dale. John had contributed a lot of fine detail to my earlier research on the afterlife and Kelly wanted to keep channelling his father for personal reasons. We both felt this ongoing contact would also help Kelly as he developed his considerable talents in this area.
Kelly is a natural trance medium and I have been working with him for many years assisting him to develop his skills in connecting with spirit. He’s now able to reach deep within himself to a place of peace and security where he is happy to rest quietly and allow an appropriate spiritual contact to share his body. Sometimes he remembers at the end of the session who has come through, but details are always sketchy at best. He refuses to listen back to our recorded sessions, to honour the integrity of the information received. He later became familiar with details of his father’s life in spirit after reading ‘Afterlife.’
Once ‘Afterlife’ was published I moved to a very peaceful area close to the Australian Casa. The calm and luxuriant natural environment is very conducive to quiet reflection and meditation, and we decided that whenever time permitted Kelly would come to my house. He wanted to continue our sessions as he felt a strong emotional bond with his father in the afterlife which he wished to maintain. In our first session I thanked John Dingwall and his spirit friends for their contribution to the book, presuming that I had gone as far as we could go on the subject of the afterlife, and was just there for a chat. However I was smartly pulled into line with John’s response. He told me my book was just the beginning! There was a lot more information from spirit that needed to be put into at least one more book.
To say I was taken aback is quite an under-statement. I sat there with my mouth agape, for once in my life almost speechless. John went on to say that the advanced spirits in the afterlife are in the process of a concerted information drive to help people world-wide release their fears about death and embrace the fact that life is a continuing process. They also believe that the time is right for people to be given as much information as possible about the continuing thread of eternal life by revealing detailed facts about life in the world of spirit. John was selected as just one of many spirit communicators to work with people on the earth plane in every possible way to get the message out.
Subsequent research shows that spirit was very active in this regard from the late nineteenth century through to the 1920s a few years after the end of The Great War. There was a huge interest in the afterlife in those years, because of various factors, including the huge loss of life in the war. This unfortunately faded with the pursuit of scientific subjects taking over from the spiritual.
However things are changing again as people are asking questions that remain unanswered by science and other belief systems. We are constantly being sent messages from many different sources in spirit, embracing everything from more widespread contact with loved ones in the afterlife, to the much publicised subject of raising our consciousness to new levels of awareness. The ongoing flow of information about our relationship with the world of spirit is an important part of our personal growth as well as that of our society as a whole. Most importantly with communications technology becoming increasingly sophisticated, more and more people are starting to seek out this information.
Well that certainly answered the question of what to write for the next book.
It was also the beginning of a series of communications with John Dingwall acting as the spokesman for a specially selected group of spirits whose combined wisdom was channelled through his son Kelly. There is nothing new in this procedure, as spirits communicating with mediums in séances conducted a century ago always referred to a ‘spirit control’ as their inspiration. Whether someone is a conscious mind medium or works in trance, they still work through a control in spirit.
As our sessions unfolded over many months John took us deeper and deeper into his world, revealing more aspects of the afterlife and exploring some of the mysteries of life itself. I soon discovered the truth of the saying, ‘as above, so below.’
After a few sessions we decided it was more appropriate for Kelly to do the sessions in a room adjoining the Australian Casa, which is a branch of John of God’s Healing Centre in Brazil. Situated on his property Eagles Nest, the casa is on an elevated ridge with sweeping views to the ocean, and the energy there was strong and pure. Our spirit connection was immediately enhanced and became stronger as the weeks progressed. Kelly’s wife Kristin joined us in each session, as she and I needed to generate as much energy as possible to help John and Kelly maintain the levels needed for the clear communication during trance mediumship. Kristin usually conducts the regular meditation meetings at the Australian Casa located on their property and has become a strong channel. In the higher vibration of the afterlife many spirits are needed to focus the energy levels required for trance sessions of this nature.
With Kristin’s strong support we were able to delve more deeply into the world of spirit than I was could go in the past. I was also inspired by the collective energy of a team of spirits to ask questions on subjects that I had not previously even thought of, obtaining fascinating extra layers of information about our ongoing life in spirit. Often these questions suddenly ‘popped’ into my head, taking us into exciting new areas of exploration. I have since become convinced this is part of the communication by thought that is available to us all when we are able to clear our mind of the monkey chatter and open ourselves to the possibility of spirit contact. As there are no voice boxes available to a spirit, all communication is done through thought transmission, unless they can work through a trance medium. Some mediums use instruments to help spirits speak in séances, and a voice box device was very popular in Victorian times and is sometimes still used today.
My partner Judy transitioned to the afterlife in 1997, leaving me the gift of opening to mediumship. When we are able to come to terms with the grief of someone very close to us passing over, we will inevitably discover they have left us a spiritual gift. It may be self-awareness, forgiveness, freedom, realisation of unconditional love or one of countless other benefits that we were not aware of previously. With John giving fresh instructions to assist with a more in depth afterlife exploration, I determined to find out as much as I could about Judy’s new life. A serendipitous meeting with UK medium Val Hood provided the catalyst for this exciting new series of contacts with Judy in the world of spirit. My good friend Ezio De Angelis made a further connection with Judy some months later. These wonderful communications proved to be a very important part of my research and will be covered in detail in later chapters.
Most of us have had many past lives. Who and where we are in this lifetime is the karmic culmination point for all of our experiences so far. However with the large population on earth now, new souls are constantly arriving here as well. Those people who have been around the traps many times are often referred to as ‘old souls.’ New or old, we can all learn a lot about ourselves by exploring our past, as I was able to do after discovering my past incarnation as Brian, a young soldier who died in The Great War. The journey that his spirit made through the Heaven World, described in detail in “Afterlife”, whetted my appetite for more revelations, so I decided to delve further into the mists of time to explore more of my past. I received several shocks which have provided several fascinating chapters later in the book.
During this period of past life research, I was in deep meditation at the Australian Casa one afternoon, when I received a very strong message from spirit.
“The seeds of each life contain our past, and our lessons can be disguised as pain”.
My guide, simply known as M, later confirmed that this thought was given to me by Judy’s spirit, whom I have been told, along with M, is around me a lot of the time, especially while researching and writing about the afterlife.
The message resonated strongly at the time and stayed with me for several weeks, and as I dived deeper and deeper into the whirlpool of my own past I came to realise the truth of this revelation.